Today I want to talk about my topic that is “Arranged Marriage vs. Love Marriage”.
As we all know, arranged marriage is an old custom which used to be practiced by royals and aristocratic families around the world. Nowadays, arranged marriages are still been practised mostly in Asia and Middle East countries. The reasons why arranged marriages are still been practised nowadays because it has a lot of advantages. I personally in favour of arranged marriage. The reasons why I agree with arranged marriage are parents know the best for their children; it is long lasting and to avoid young people from involve in social ills.
First of all, parents know and want the best for their children especially when choosing their children’s future life partners. Parents are more experienced and they will choose the best in order to ensure their children’s happinesss. They will choose their children’s future spouses based on their academic level, their occupations and their religious and family backgrounds in order to make their children feel happy and secured in their life. They absolutely will not ruin their children’s life because they love and care for their children. For example, just take a look at the characters of Nur and Adam in the drama series Nur Kasih which is aired onTV3. Nur and Adam were married based on arranged marriage. At first Adam does not agree with his father’s plan to marry him to Nur. But later he has to admit that Nur Amina is the right person for him. Though initially, they do not know much about each other, they finally are contented and satisfied with their relationship and live happily because their parents know the best for both of them. The couple who married with the consent of their parents could resort to their parents when they face problems. Their parents would come forward to solve the problems between the couple. Thus arranged marriage is considered secure compared to love marriage.
Secondly, arranged marriage is long lasting. Each couple will start to know each other only after they get engaged. During the “get-to-know” phase, the couple starts to discover their partners’ overall personality. In their marriage they start to fall in love and develop a deep love for one another. They can share things that they like, their hopes and dreams together. Unlike love marriage, love will fade after having long relationships before the couple get married. They will feel bored towards each other after having such a long relationship. Eventually, they will end up quarrelling may even lead to divorce. It is reported that in Malaysia that there were 200,000 divorces among young couples in the last 12 years and children suffered the greatest. Thus, arranged marriage is better than love marriage because it is long lasting.
Lastly, arranged marriage can avoid social ills among youngsters. It prevents youngsters from mingling with each other, having sex before marriage which can lead to unintended pregnancies and abortions. Thus, arranged marriages can save young people from committing all these sinful acts if they know that their marriages are arranged by their parents. Even Islam also does encourage arranged marriage in order to avoid social ills from occurring among youngsters. Islam encourages people to start to know each other after engagement under parent’s supervision. I have translated an ayah 32 in surah Al-Isra’ which states that “Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and as an evil, opening the road (to other evils). This clearly shows that Islam prohibits Muslims from mingling with each other before marriage and arranged marriage is a solution to prevent all these social ills.
Even though some might say that love marriage gives more happiness and pleasures but it doesn’t determine a perfect marriage because sometimes love can be blind. Arranged marriages bring more happiness not only to the couple but also bring happiness to the families. In fact, arranged marriages are better than love marriage because parents know and choose the best for their children; love fades after having long relationship before marriage and arranged marriages prevent young people from getting involved in social ills.
Concisely, arranged marriages give more advantages and can determine a happy and good future for people. The advantages for having arranged marriage come from parents who know the best for their children; love fades after having long relationship before marriage and to avoid young people from committing social ills.
With that, I thank you!
